True Love
I receive so many emails asking me to help someone find "true love, someone to love me as I am, my soul mate."
True love. Love is true. All love is truth. So if you feel love it is true. Don't wait for someone to love you. Love, just love and you will be loved and that is true love.
"Someone to love me as I am," sounds too much like "my way or the highway." An important question is "Do you love yourself?" If you don't love yourself the way you are don't expect someone else to love you the way you are. Love yourself and then love will come to you. You should expect someone to love you if you have blue or brown eyes. If you are 5' 4" or 6'. Maybe your weight is not the fashionable number. If you are okay with your physical looks then so should someone else.
Compromise For Love
Your mind should always be open to change. You can change your thinking. You can change your habits, too. You might think you must go out every Saturday night and you lover likes to stay home and watch TV on Saturday. Maybe you could go out together one Saturday a month and another Saturday you go out with friends and the other two you stay home and watch movies. Compromise. Com- promise. Isn't it interesting promise is part of the word compromise. Compromise, I swear to cooperate. I agree to help any way I can to make this relationship work. That's what compromise is and the key to any association to work, be it lover, friend, child, parent, co-worker or stranger on the bus. The hermit living in a cave on a mountain doesn't have to compromise; the rest of us do.
Soul Mates
We are all one. We are all soul mates. The idea that there is only one person to love is a fairy tale. Every love has its own special qualities. Love changes at different levels for each person. It is possible to deeply love many people in your lifetime.
Marriage and Love
Marriage is a legal contract between two people. It is a contract to honor another person, to share all our worldly goods with each other, to help one another. Many years ago marriage could be a contract between two strangers and if love grew that was great, but it was still a legal contract without love. Too many people concentrate on the wedding instead of the marriage. That is like buying the furniture and decorating the house before you go to closing and sign the contract to purchase the house. The only time many realize that marriage is a legal contract is when the marriage is over and you want a divorce, then you know how much legal involvement is part of marriage. After you purchase the house and sign for a mortgage, you make monthly payments on time, because you know if you don't you may lose your house. Yet so many marriage partners don't respect each other or one partner thinks he or she is the boss of the other. Sometimes one partner thinks he or she should be the only one to make money decisions. Some married couples forget that they have signed a legal contract to co-operate with each another in every way possible. To respect each other. To be polite with each other. Saying "Thank you" is good for both of you. Marriage is a contract to be the best you can be with you partner. Marriage is a chance to grow and learn with another person. Marriage is an opportunity to be so comfortable with your partner that you can change, that you can open your mind to new ideas and make a new relationship together every day. Marriage will have disagreements, problems and troubles, but marriage should also have joy and love. Love everyone as your soul mate. Most of all give yourself the love you want to have and joy will be yours.
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